People who are high in social emotional skills, usually do not engage in the battle for supremacy by negative judgmental weaponry. People who use negative judgments as a relationship weapon usually do not possess adequate empathic listening skills and rely more on cat/dog fighting. If you negatively Judge, strike it from your life once and for all. And insist that your partner does the same. Do not Judge unless you are willing to be judged by the same standards that you Judge others! I have yet to see a relationship on the rocks that did not use negative judgments as a means of destruction. Such marriages share very little intimacy and the partners usually blame each other for the problems in the relationship. Stop the madness and do everything you can to build your partner into the loving person that he or she is. If you don't do it, someone else will. And by all means, check out your thought processes for any signs of distorted and negative thinking. Remember, you don't want to be right -- you want to be effective. Do what works! Do you want to be a lover or a fighter? Don't avoid the real issues by hiding behind negative judgments!
Get a mental enema and flush out the negative crap that you put on your partner. If you want to build love into your relationship, you will need to sanitize your thinking. Erase every thought from your mind that hurts your partner. Replace it with spiritual Unconditional Love. Check with Dr. Paul's spiritual counseling strategies. Love is the answer! There are powerful spiritual and cognitive tools for mental sanitation and purification by love.
